Hello Friends! It’s time for the monthly check-in on my goals.
Is it just me or do you find it somewhat cathartic to think that each new year, month, day creates an opportunity to try again, restart, revise, adjust, and/or shift mental focus based on new information? Well I do! It is so reassuring to know that I don’t have to be perfect in achieving my goals every single day. There’s hope in knowing that when I stumble I can get back up, dust myself off, drink a refreshing glass of mental boost juice, and get back toward chipping away at my goals.
Since reflection is essential to this process, I am going to review my progress for each goal, the challenges I have faced with being constant with each, and some lessons I have learned and applied along the way.
Summary: Well, let’s start with the fact that my first monthly update includes some successes and quite a few areas that I need to continue building toward for the remainder of the year. Overall, however, I am very excited about the prospect of successfully completing all of my goals (or at least making significant growth in each area). I am not going to lie; this whole resolution thing is not completely my style, but setting goals and making plans to achieve them is totally my thing, even if I don’t always execute them the way I would prefer.
For those of you that are new to the blog, here are the goals I set for this year— and likely the foreseeable few years, if I’m honest. If you would like to read more about how I arrived at these goals, read the first blog post here.
Pray/Mediate More ⇒ Update: I’m not sure if it’s just me, but quiet time is surely not something that rolls around frequently in a day, or even in a week. Time to meditate and pray has not been knocking on my door asking me to come out and play. Rather, it prefers to play hide and seek and wait for me to come and find it. I want to come out and play most times, but other times I become so busy that forget mediation/pray time wants to engage my attention and energy. Needless to say, I have only been successful in those instances when I have taken deliberate steps to make this goal a priority. I’ve always naturally taken short moments to acknowledge inner peace, God, seek spiritual direction, etc., but not as much I would like to. I have learned that taking time the night before or first thing in the morning to set the direction for the day (through checklist or notes) increases the likelihood that I will stop and slow life down at some point throughout the day. The more self-aware I am about how I am spending my time is the more successful I am in the choices I make.
Read More ⇒ Update: The first two weeks were great! I was meeting the goal of reading for at least 30 minutes a day. And then, boom… inconsistency led to complete stagnation. It moved from being in my top 3 daily priorities to number 10. Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating with the scale here, but you get the point. Sadly, my stagnation has not been due to a lack of 30 minutes to spend on reading; mostly, it is due to life becoming hectic and me becoming less likely to remember to read. Intentionally, writing it down on my to-do list is the only thing that will remind me to stop and read at the end of the day instead of hoping on YouTube. Can anyone relate? Are there times when you simply don’t achieve a goal because you forgot about it as a priority during the whirlwind of life? What goals have you forgotten about?
Be More Fearless + Dream Bigger ⇒ Update: My progress on this one is a little hard to describe in 100% action for the first month because it really begins with an internal mental shift that is often intangible. It’s an attitude, a feeling, a boldness, and often an editing of negative self-talk that removes the mental barriers and past experiences that limit us. I’ve always been a big dreamer, but my over-analysis can sometimes handicap actions. What has helped me become more fearless is to think of a few different questions and ideas: (1) What do I really have to lose? (2) If the worst happens, will it really be the end of the world? (3) And if it is the end of the world, will I regret not doing it before I die? By this point, I’ve usually snapped out of the ridiculous nagging fear and been kicked into gear. Inspired by Nike’s slogan, I tell myself to get out of my own way and “just do it” by focusing on actions and plans. This has helped me get over the virus of fear paralysis. If life is more like a book, I am encouraging myself to entertain the idea of how I would feel at the end of my life if someone told me that I could have written a more amazing story if only I hadn’t been so afraid.
Be More Organized ⇒ Update: I can check this goal off simply because it says “more,” right? So far, I have been slightly more organized than before so technically it’s a win! Ok, I’m kidding; clearly I am going to put more effort and work into this area. It’s not that my life is a jumbled mess; it’s more about knowing that if I want to accomplish more then I have to be more organized and intentional with my time. Successfully, I have become more organized with my time to make sure that I am prioritizing things like bringing enough food to work for lunch and snacks, having time to hit the gym, and making to-do list. However, stopping to eat at the right times at work and checking off everything on my to-do list still needs some improvement. Another positive is that I started the year with a winter cleaning of my house and was quite organized until the receipts, clothes near my closet, junk mail, and other little annoying items started creeping back into my living space! Needless to say, its time to refresh a bit with a few dedicated de-clutter/tidy hours.
Travel More ⇒ Update: So far so good folks!
I finally pulled the trigger and just did it. Before I was always waiting for the perfect time and the perfect price. In the past, there I would sit wasting hours of me daydreaming, surfing the web, and then being too indecisive to just book something and start counting down. Traveling is definitely expensive, but what I realized about myself is that seeing new places, eating good food (of any price range), feeling new energy, and relaxing is really my ideal getaway. Therefore, it doesn’t have to always be an exotic island or extremely expense and far away. I started with a weekend getaway to New York City! I have always loved the energy there and it’s only 4 hours away from my home. Honestly, there’s so much to discover and explore in NY that I could probably go every weekend for the next year and still not experience everything the entire city has to offer in terms of entertainment, food, and fun. The next stop is Las Vegas next week and New Orleans in March. I will let you know all about it, so stay tuned to this journey.
Maintain and Cultivate More Quality Relationships ⇒ Update: Of course, this is a lifelong and on-going goal, but its important to become more aware of who and what I am giving my precious life moments too. I’ve become more conscious about saying yes to (and creating) more friend-related gatherings. It’s hard for me not to allow the rat-race of life and hectic work schedule from getting in the way of spending time with other people. Keeping up to date with people in life really makes a big difference to our overall well-being. One lesson that I have learned in this area is the importance of being intentional about enjoying the moments with those I love, even if they are shorter than I would prefer. When dealing with my relationship, friends, and family, I’ve continued to notice that having moments of love, openness, support, and positive energy — of any length of time — refreshes my mind and energy way better than any cup of coffee ever could.
Write More ⇒ Update: Well, seeing that my last blog post before this one was over a month ago, I would safely say that I haven’t been too successful in this area for the initial part of the year. I’ve definitely written more for work-related purposes, but definitely not for this blog. Does that count? Don’t worry. I’m choosing to make this blog a home and to not worry about always writing the perfect post. Hopefully you’ve noticed the changes I’ve made to the blog site– new layout and a new countdown to the next blog in the sidebar. In addition, I’m going to expand the topics I will be writing about in order to create more of an open dialogue and content for me to share with you — my new friends out in the universe! So, get involved, let me know what’s on your mind, and pay attention to that post countdown in the sidebar!
Give More ⇒ Update: I’m planning on surprising a few people so I cannot say much more than I’m doing OK with this goal at the moment 🙂
Regain Past Levels of Physical Fitness ⇒ Update: I’m putting in the work!
Besides getting the flu and feeling like a monster trunk ran over me, I have been able to hit the gym. Proudly, I refrained from setting the intense goal of exercising everyday until I get back to my heyday tone. I started with small goals and it’s working to prevent me from crashing and burning. I’m hoping to step things up a notch and increase the burn, but I am going to keep at it healthy and gradual. Trust me, the man would be happy to hear me say that because he’s always the one taking care of me when I over do it and re-injure myself!
Overall Lesson(s) for the month:
- Life is best lived intentionally. If I don’t choose to live life on purpose/with intention, it quickly turns into chance outcomes that I am not always satisfied with. There’s no time for that, right?
- Putting too much pressure on myself to get everything right immediately is mental assault with a deadly weapon. Embracing the process and the growth is much more rewarding that focusing on every little area that is not perfect.
What about you?
I know that some of you will be able to relate to areas of my update, so don’t leave me out here on a limb by myself! Share what’s working for you and what adjustments you are making along your personal journey. If nothing else, at least help me confirm that I am not in this personal growth thing alone. What’s working? What’s not working? What have you learned?
Comment below or chat with me!